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Who do you compare yourself to?

Anyone else heard of ‘The curse of comparison’?? It’s something inbuilt into our human nature where we assess how we’re doing in comparison to someone else. I think it probably comes back to survival instincts and making sure that we're ahead of the pack in someway and not at the bottom of the pile so to speak. Who Knows.

Whatever the reason behind it is - it’s an easy trap to fall into. I do it all the time with areas of my life and look at the other person and think ‘they’re better at that than me’. Most of the time I'll even be doing this at a subconscious level and not necessarily be mindful that I'm actually doing it and sometimes when this happens I have to catch myself doing it. As musicians and singer songwriters it's easy to make the comparison and look at how successful someone else is, how much better they are at being a musician than you actually are.

But making this comparison isn’t a fair reflection. Other musicians have different life journeys and a different life balance. They might have spent more time practicing some aspect of their music and looking at a particular aspect of something more than me.

✅The best person to compare yourself to is YOU! Your development in something should only ever be compared with a past version of you. This helps the motivational aspect of development massively as well - so next time you find yourself comparing to others - stop and look at how far you’ve come!!!


Mark Midwinter online session drummer

Mark is an online session drummer based in Reading UK providing remotely recorded drums to independent musicians and singer songwriters all over the world.

His main focus on the drums is to always be musical and listen to the other instruments in the band and support the song in it's development. It's always about the song.

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